5 things you’ll learn when planning your wedding
I feel as though I learned quite a bit while planning our wedding, both about wedding planning itself, and also about our relationship. It was an exciting and stressful time in our lives and looking back on it now, it all feels so worth it.
We just got our wedding video back along with our full wedding gallery and we’ve had SO much fun looking back at that special day. Yet it wasn’t all rainbows and butterflies during the planning portion. Here are some of the things we learned during that thrilling/trying time, ha!
I laugh about it now but at the time we were NOT laughing. Tim and I got into a heated argument…can you guess what it was about?
FLATWARE. I kid you not. He wanted to save $$$ (which was the responsible decision) and go with plan flatware, but I wanted to spend. I just needed the white dipped flatware. And, to be fair, we did agree after the wedding that the flatware made a huge impact on the otherwise fairly simple tables, but the argument is just so silly to think about now.
So, I urge you to take a step back and really figure out what’s worth “fighting” for and what isn’t. And remember, your memories from the day will be about all the fun you have with your friends and family and less about the flatware that was on your tables.
Truly, you can do SO many different things with your big day! Sure, you may be following a template of sorts, but you can get as creative as you’d like with it. I started to feel overwhelmed by just how many options we had in decorating our blank canvas venue. I wanted to go wild in the best sense of the word!
Though, I had to remind myself that we couldn’t and shouldn’t go overboard, despite wanting to decorate almost every inch with colorful florals and elements that were so uniquely ours. So, while we started out with a TON of ideas for the space, we peeled back and found a happy medium.
It is YOUR wedding! Yet, family and friends can get so involved that it feels like it’s not yours at all. So, keep this in mind as you plan and enjoy your wedding week: It is you and your partner’s day. It’s to celebrate your love, but it’s also for everyone else to celebrate along with you. We kept our guests in mind when planning the day to make sure everything was as easy and enjoyable for them as possible, but we kept reminding ourselves that it was our day.
Whether you have SO much fun with planning or not, it starts to feel like work! I say this in the kindest way possible, but it can be so tedious and time-consuming. You’ll spend hours in meetings with vendors, sending emails back and forth, driving to venue visits, etc. So when it starts to feel like a job, take a step back and remember why you’re doing it.
I’ll be the first to tell you I didn’t have the easiest time with wedding planning, I just don’t think it was for me. However, it was so so special to get to see everyone we loved in Atlanta for a weekend and we ended up truly enjoying our day.
Something will, most likely, not go as planned
So many people told me this before our wedding day, so I felt as though I was prepared to not take things too seriously day-of because at that point, what’s done was done. But I still crossed my fingers for a near “perfect” day. And, that’s what we got! However, there was one piece that did frustrate me:
We had a few people not show up to the wedding at all! I kid you not. We received their RSVPs marked as “attending” and then they didn’t show. That is probably the most frustrating, especially when we weren’t given a heads up. Just a little note to say they couldn’t come last-minute would have been appreciated! But, again, it’s your day and not theirs. So, do your best to keep reminding yourself of that.
I’m hoping I didn’t scare you off! Just trying to be as real as possible with you. And, more fun wedding things are coming your way soon!
What were some of the biggest things you learned while planning your own wedding? Or if you’re in the midst of wedding planning, what do you wish you knew before you started?